Hello, dans ce post je vais te partager un peu de sagesse tirée d'une vidéo YouTube ainsi que des commentaires qui se trouvaient sous cette vidéo. La vidéo se trouve tout en bas de l'article. C'est une vidéo de "Struthless" et il parle des choses qu'il aurait aimé savoir lorsqu'il avait entre 20 et 30 ans. La vidéo est excellente (comme tout son contenu sur YouTube) et il y a des vraies pépites parmi les commentaires, je les ai donc répertoriées ci-dessous. Le tout en anglais.
Voici donc sans plus tarder, quelques conseils de sagesse populaire provenant d'internet. Je te les présente en format "image" puis en format texte.
Internet wisdom - images
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Internet wisdom - text
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Showing up is 80% of the work. Just show up to your relationships, job, workout, whatever you want to have in life, and the rest is actually easy. Just get started
You don't have to kill it at work. I've worked super hard and been told i was shit, i've been lazy and told I was amazing, find the level of effort that makes you proud of YOURSELF and stop there. Don't worry about impressing others or being like others... cuz everyone is too busy with themselves to notice.
Revisit your childhood hobbies. Play is the best therapy. Ride your bike, make a doll house, catch bugs, go to the zoo, build a lego tower. and also you DON'T HAVE TO MONETIZE IT OR BE GOOD AT IT. If you enjoy it... THAT'S IT. That's all you need
Achieving your goals will leave you empty. I think it’s quite natural to work hard when you’re young. You want to make a success for yourself… and in a post-school age, you need to set ‘targets’ for yourself that replace the grades you used to be given. However, once you meet those targets… you’ll then be left wondering what to do next? Maybe you’ll set an even bigger target for yourself… smash that… then what? A big change came to me when I realised to not focus on the goal… but on doing things each day that I enjoyed and that made me proud of myself. People often refer to this as focusing on the journey, not the destination.
Be yourself. Don’t hide who you are. Being open and honest about yourself takes vulnerability… but I tell you this… vulnerability is beautiful! I am so much closer to the people in my life because I opened up about myself to them. Unsurprisingly, doing so and being vulnerable makes it easier for them to open up to me as well. Examples of being vulnerable that made my 20s: opening up about my sexuality, asking friends how they developed skills that I envied them for, telling people (who I loved) that I love them.
If you focus on what you lack, you lose what you have.
Assume everyone's got shit (their own struggles and baggage)
Hard choices = easy life, Easy choices = hard life (example : hard choice => work but easier life than an easy choice like doing drugs that 'll leads to harder life)
You don't do things for you, you do things for FUTURE you
YOU can define your own success and what it means to you. Success doesn't have to be making 100k a year living in 2 story brick house outside the city by the time you're 30. It can be just be finding stability or being in a place where you feel you can grow.
Most people are thinking/worrying about their own shit 90% of the time, so being concerned about what other people think of you is based on the false assumption that they're even thinking about you at all.
People's opinions about other people (or about anything) are a result of who they are and their own life experiences much more than a result of the thing they have an opinion about. I heard it put this way and it clicked for me -- if 100 people watch the same movie, they're all going to have different opinions about it. Some will love it, some will hate it. It doesn't change the movie. The same thing is true about people's opinions of you. You are who you are. Some people will love you, some people won't like you at all. That's based on their expectations of you more than it is about who you are as a person, and their expectations come from their own beliefs and experiences. Sometimes when I'm worried about what other people think, I ask myself, "If I were someone else, would I judge me for this?" Usually the answer is no, which makes it easier to dismiss other people judging me.
You don't have to monetize everything. I have a ton of different interests -- painting, illustration, knitting and crochet, writing, decluttering, teaching, singing -- and over the years when people would tell me that I was good at something, the implication was always that I should somehow get paid for it. Start an Etsy shop, start a tutoring business on the side, etc. But what I learned is that it's okay to do things just because you enjoy them and just because they feel good, and even if you're really really good at those things, it doesn't mean you need to pursue getting paid for them. You can do things just for pleasure and for personal development. I have found that some of the things I felt I should monetize actually make me happier if I give them away for free.
J'espère que cet article t'as plu et qu'il te permettra de commencer 2023 avec un mindset positif !
Voici la vidéo en question :